My guide to being a gentleman in the 21st Century. It’s basically everything you’d expect to be here but with 21st instead of 20th in the title.
- A gentleman holds the door open for everyone, not just ladies. (A gentleman may however find entertainment in the passive-agressive door holding game, although not too often.)
- A gentleman treats everyone equally. Full stop. No conditionals.
- A gentleman stands up for the rights of others, even if they are not relevant to him personally. He recognises the wrong and seeks its correction.
- A gentleman never returns abuse (verbal or physical). He absorbs it, tries to understand why it exists at all and becomes a better man for doing so.
- If a gentleman sees someone in trouble or struggling, he does not walk by. He offers to help.
- If a gentleman is sitting and there are no seats available for others, he will stand and offer his seat. The standing part is important for being a gentleman, as the seat is more likely to be accepted.
- A gentleman never speaks ill of his better half and their exploits, only speaking of his luck and love.
- This list of guidelines is not exhaustive, simply a starting point.
- Finally, the Gentleman’s guide is timeless and never needs to be updated.
Are you already a gentleman? I try my best to follow The 21st Century Guide to Being a Gentleman, but sometimes I fail. I will update this list as I think of more guidelines and when people suggest additions.



